David DeAngek) – Approaching Women in Bars and Clubs iPod
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RAISING THE BAR: HOW THE FOXY BLANCHE LIKES TO BE APPROACHED
Let me introduce you to my sexy friend the Foxy Blonde for those of you who have never read her insights. Today she will tell you how she prefers to be approached in bars.
Thank you, David!!
Do you ever wish you were more like Norm? You’d go to Cheers, the bar where everyone knows your name, every night. Of course, you’d have to accept the fact that you’re tubby, middle-aged, and fictional, but you’d never have to deal with the fear of approaching strangers. Real bars, especially where I live in Los Angeles, are far less welcoming than Cheers. Many guys, fed up with games and rejection, will not even approach the girls. And the girls, tired of drunk frat boy types who come on too strong, have their defenses up to DEFCON 1 level. It’s a social standoff in which no one wins.
Let me let you in on a little secret, guys. When I gather my friends and we get all dressed up for a big night out, it’s a little disappointing if no one takes the bait. We want you to communicate with us. You simply must proceed in the proper manner.
First and foremost, keep it simple. A guy once approached me and said, “I love this song.” It turned out that I liked that song as well. We were soon talking at breakneck speed about obscure 90s British pop bands, and how difficult was it to ask for my phone number? Not at all.
Looking for a topic for a conversation? Girls love to give advice, so why not ask one for some suggestions? Approach a cute bartender and ask her where you should take your best friend or parents when they come to visit. She’ll enjoy impressing you with her choices, and you’ll both learn a lot about what the other enjoys doing for fun.
I’m not a big fan of pick-up lines, but it’s always amusing when a guy walks up and introduces his friend, asking, “Have you met Bill?” It’s difficult to leave the guy hanging after this. A discussion ensues.
And now I’ll blow your mind with the Best Pick-Up Line Ever. Are you prepared? “Hello, my name is .” I’m not kidding. This is just friendly, Cheers-like behavior. Even if a guy approaches me and introduces himself, I would never pass up such a friendly opportunity. I’d respond with a “Hi” and introduce him to my friends. Maybe one of them is a better fit.
Isn’t it simple? There are, however, some pitfalls to avoid. Take an interest, but don’t interrogate, when chatting up a girl at the bar. I dislike being asked what I do for a living within the first 5 seconds of meeting someone. I frequently drink at a bar to escape the stresses of work, and the last thing I want to do is return to the daily grind. Save the shop talk for our first date and instead ask me about my most recent fantastic trip, my Halloween costume, or my favorite single malt Scotch.
Another no-no: don’t back down. If I’m smiling and making eye contact with you, that’s a good sign. I lose my boner if you just stand there looking confused.
Don’t be careless. A couple of drinks may boost your confidence, but too many and you’ll be slurring and spraying spittle. It’s not sexy.
Don’t feel obligated to close the deal in a single conversation. You and she are under too much stress. Leave, give her some space, and return later. Instead of being a random stranger, you’re now a friendly face. You’re almost on your second date.
Be wary of imitating popular pickup lines, such as those advocated by Mystery in “The Game.” Any girl who has read the book or watched the TV show will recognize you from a mile away. Seriously, if a guy approached me and asked, “Do you believe in magic spells?” or “Hey, did you see that fight outside?” I’d walk away. I’m thinking of punching him. These lines are not genuine unless there was a fight outside, in which case go for it. However, those scripted approaches teach us something. They’re all about engaging a woman in conversation about something other than her appearance or your desire to screw her. They’re looking to start a conversation.
I actually feel bad that approaching women in bars can be such a stressful experience. Men should be commended for their bravery in these situations, in my opinion. (It is not brave to yell, “Nice ass!” That’s ridiculous.) My very attractive and cool brother complains that some women act offended when he approaches them in a bar. I say, “Shame on those women!” Bars are gathering places. Stay at home if you, like Greta Garbo, “wish to be alone.”
And the burden should not be solely on the shoulders of men. Guys, try the famous eye contact and smiling routine. The girls may approach you. We’re all looking for a friendly face (along with sexy eyes and a hot body, but who’s counting?).
So, tell me about the best and worst ways you’ve ever been approached in a bar. And, please, ask this question to an attractive stranger the next time you’re out!
And today’s video will focus on the follow-up call after you’ve obtained her phone number.
