Style’s Fundamentals of Approaching and Opening
Salepage : Style’s Fundamentals of Approaching and Opening
When most men begin learning pickup, the first thing they want to know is how to open. Others who are new at pickup will ask for pickup lines, while those with a little more experience would ask for “openers,” both with the mindset that if they only had the correct opening line, the rest would be easy and ladies would jump in the sack with them. It’s a piece of cake.
On the matter, there is both good and bad news. The good news is that getting started is simple. It only takes the correct mentality and a few basic rules. The bad news is that opening is the simplest portion of a set. After all, the opening is something that can be prepared. There is minimal need to think quickly.
Furthermore, social conditioning is working in your advantage throughout the opening. It’s difficult to open up to a stranger, but it’s much more difficult to be disrespectful to someone who approaches you in a fair, kind manner. All the pressure you feel when meeting a new female is magnified the moment you open your mouth.
Having saying that, you may increase your chances of success by grasping a few concepts and following a few easy guidelines.
First and foremost, it is critical to understand the function of an opener. No, there is no magic opener that will cause her pants to drop straight away – so don’t even try. Rather, the opener’s objective is straightforward: to divert her attention away from her conscious thought for a few seconds while you demonstrate your personality and value.
That’s all. If all you’ve done is given yourself a chance to show off your individuality and you manage to provide some worth, you’ve opened!
What is the second most important thing to understand about opening? It doesn’t matter what you say. We’ll go through some particular openers and how they work later, but the basic reality is that once you understand opening, you can open with nearly anything.
The most important aspect to opening is to portray confidence. Almost all of the principles about opening come down to signaling that you are a confident, comfortable person who is absolutely unintimidated by the beauty in front of you.
This gets us to the “three second rule,” the first fundamental guideline of opening. That is, from the minute you notice a lady you want to open, you should do so within three seconds. This guideline is frequently broken, but the main point is that you do not want her to sit there waiting for you to open. If she senses that you want to open her before you do, your worth will continue to fall the longer you wait. She should never detect you waiting for the door to open. That conveys weakness.
There are several reasons to break the three-second rule these days. For example, if you’re having a conversation with your buddies, you shouldn’t interrupt it to chat to her. But don’t orbit – don’t wait for an opportunity to start chatting to her. If the time isn’t appropriate to open her, do something else and come back later.
The second opening guideline is to open over your shoulder. This is obviously not always possible, but consider how it feels. If you approach a female and open her door, you make her feel important and valuable. “You’re worth walking across the room to see.” You’ve already put yourself at a disadvantage. Instead, if you open her casually, over your shoulder, as if you’ve just seen her, your body language says, “I suppose you could be worth chatting to for a bit,” and you haven’t given her a pedestal to stand on, which is half the fight.
Obviously, this guideline should not be observed while jumping from a cliff. Simply start talking to a female if she is there in front of you. It’s meaningless to arrange a circumstance where you’re opening her over your shoulder if she offers you a strong approach invitation (say, holding your look across a busy room). Simply finish what you’re doing, walk over, and introduce yourself.
And this takes us to the most crucial opening guideline of them all: open! What if you haven’t yet learnt any openers? So what if you’re undoubtedly making some body language errors? You are not in the game if you do not open. Opening is a habit that should be developed. You’ll have plenty of time afterwards to fine-tune your technique.
Make a vow to yourself to begin opening and stop making excuses not to. Decide to stop fantasizing about chatting to gorgeous ladies and start actually talking to them. If you can make that commitment, the rest will fall into place.